I'm really tired of people saying they want others to treat them with respect when they don't treat others with respect.
For instance:
Being bullied in school -- called fat, ugly, lesbian, gay, ranga, metal mouth, pizza face, what ever the name -- then saying "people shouldn't wear leggings as pants" or "why would they sing that crappy song?" or "their writing is so bad I can't believe I've just read this" is exactly the same as what the bullies -- those people you cry/whinge/bitch/hate/fight -- are doing to you.
Seriously, you're being hypocritical. You want people to accept you and your choices but you refuse to accept others and their choices. That's just not cool.
If someone wants to wear leggings as pants: don't bloody look.
If that person wants to sing that song: don't bloody listen.
If someone writes something: don't bloody read it.
This constant obsession people have of tearing down others is awful. Then the next breath is "you need to respect my rights to..."
Seriously, I'm all about doing what makes you happy. Why must there always be someone who comes along and dictates the terms of what you can do to be happy? Damnit, if I want to put my fat arse in a pair of leggings I will do it; BECAUSE IT MAKES ME HAPPY. I'm not hurting anyone nor am I forcing anyone to look at me.
So next time you're preaching/crying/begging/asking/whining/demanding respect ask yourself if you are being truly respectful to others. Ask yourself if it's really any of your business what someone else wears/sings/writes/reads/listens to/likes. Ask yourself if you would like them to judge you the way you're judging them.
4 comments:
I totally agree. The best thing in life we can do is be happy and accepting but how can you be accepting when we constantly critise other people.
Plus, from such behaviour bigotry is born in all it's delightful forms.
Hi Lisa, thank you so much for the comment. You're totally right, this kind of behaviour and thought pattern is the precursor to bigotry. It's a shame really.
I understand some people don't even realise what they're really saying since it's socially acceptable to judge and criticise others. Of course it's not called that, even though we all know that's exactly what's going on. Perhaps people will realise how hurtful their comments really are from reading blogs, comments and tweets. Oh! Maybe even by having a -- Le gasp -- conversation!!
People like that would have everyone believe that all the people they are judging have something wrong with them. But the truth is, it's them, the judgmental ones who are damaged, flawed. A healthy, balanced person doesn't feel the need to get all judgey with other people!
So very, very true!
Thank you so much for commenting Sleepydumpling! You always bring a lovely calm and thoughtfulness to my blog. Xxx
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